Psalm 41:9-12.

Psalms 41:9 – 21st Century KJV (1994) Yea, mine own familiar friend in whom I trusted, that ate of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me .

But Thou, O LORD, be merciful unto me, and raise me up that I may requite them.

By this I know that Thou favorest me: because mine enemy doth not triumph over me.

And as for me, Thou upholdest me in mine integrity, and settest me before Thy face for ever

Familiarity according to Dictionary.com is a close acquaintance or relaxed friendliness or intimacy between people.
Merrian Webster defined Familiarity as thorough knowledge or mastery of a thing, Subject,etc. The state of being familiar, Friendly relationship, Close acquaintance, intimacy, An absence of ceremony and familiarity.

Familiarity means a close pal, someone who knows everything about you with no restrain. A very good friend who has become almost like a family member whom you can hold on trust. Your confidant; the Bible described him/her as “Familiar Friend which did eat of my bread …” This is a friend or a relationship you have build up together and you probably do everything together, You eat together, discussed all your plans together even when you are facing rough times and you needed a confidant to share with, he becomes the first to know because you cannot hide any form of feelings from him/her And such a person decides to betray you and stabs you at the back; such stabbing will be with a very deep cut and may be a disaster.

Never the less, when the innocent cries to God , He hears and delivers him from all troubles.
There’s an adage which says “It’s better when someone wounds you with a knife where you can see the wound and know how to apply some treatment for the wound to heal”.
What about someone stabbing you at the back where you cannot see? That is what a friendship gone sour is. When you have face betrayal from a loved one or a very close friend whom you had shared some intimacy with you know it’s frustrating and discouraging.

Remember, the Bible says “Even my own Familiar Friend whom I trusted who ate my bread, has lifted up his heel against me” this suggested that he/she is an intimate friend whom you must have had a good working relationship with has decided to betray the trust which has cause you pain and unbearable dissatisfactions.

It once happened to me, I couldn’t believed it when our common friend called to disclosed to me what my closest friend whom everyone knew us together and sometimes referred to us as twin sisters. I felt like it wasn’t true, I couldn’t gather myself to call her while I was waiting to see if she will come to my house or call but my greatest surprise was when for about 8 or 9 days gone she did not call or come yet within those days of silence I was praying fervently that the fire Theresa (Not her real name for security reason) had ignited will not destroy some other things we had held in confident.

God saw through my heart and how I was able to overcome the trauma became my testimony up to today and became a tool to guide me against trust in a man. Anyway, we were able to resolve our balance sheet concerning the business we had together regardless but the relationship died a natural dead without much ado.

“Cast your burden on the Lord and He will sustain you, He will never permit the righteous to be moved” (Psalms 55:22).


The Bible refers to Familiarity as Household Enemies; Household Enemies are people who are close to you and are of great assistance, They ensure that you have them intrust due to their roles and they are respected and considered in everything concerning you because of their closeness, knows everything that happens around you , they know all your secrets, your strength and your weakness. Every basic knowledge of your daily routines they know and are highly pretentious to cover their ill intention in other not to give out their motives.

“For the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man\’s enemies are the men of his own house”. (Micah 7:6) ESV

These household enemies are very delicate to deal with , they look trust worthy and harmless but very vindictive and poisonous. They blend with the environment and operate discreetly without being notice. They can easily predict you because they know the off and On of your life button. They mark time to a set target and goal because they know your every attitude, , character,likes and dislikes due to your familiarity and closeness with them.

The critical thing about them is that their unsuspecting victim may react in an unbelief and skeptism or even feel it\’s impossible for such a person to hurt a fly not to think of their evil ways because of the trust and respect reimpose on them.

Household enemies are the most difficult enemies to deal with because they are relations who are related to you through blood line, Marriages or Family members . They are like Cain who killed his brother Abel just because of uncontrolled Jealousy and envy. (Genesis 4:3-8) or like Absalom who dreaded to overran his father’s army in other to over thrown his father and assumed the leadership of Israel. (2samuel17: 20-26).

Job 19:19 Job declared “My close friends detest me. Those I loved have turned against me” Despite all the chastisements Job heard from his friends, he did not allow himself to be weighed down rather he was confident on the Lord and did not waste time to proclaimed “But as for me, I know that my Redeemer lives and He will stand upon the earth at last. What a great faith Job had especially in light of the fact that he was sure all that happened to him wasn’t as a result of what he had done based on his transgression even though he wasn’t aware of the dialogue between God and satan towards his afflictions yet he believed that his body at the end of life shall meet the Lord and perhaps there he may be restored through resurrection of his body to see God face to face.

Jesus also shared in the same sentiment when He was dining at the last supper with His disciples , He said “I tell you the truth one of you eating with me here will betray me”. Greatly distress by the disciples each one of them began to asked in turn “Am I the one?” He replied “It is one of you twelve who is eating from this bowl with me” for the son of man must die as the scripture declared long ago. But it will be far better for that man if he had never been born” (mark 14:18-19).

When strange things begin to happen to you, first of all look inwardly and cross cheek yourself that you have not given yourself up for an attack by your own actions inadvertently. No total stranger can harm you without clue from inside sources; it may interest you to note that some vital secret we disclose to even the unfriendly friend that lurks around you or the household enemy is enough to provoke envy and jealousy without you knowing it.

Be careful when dealing with friends who do not like to celebrate you when good things happen to you , those friends who finds it difficult to appreciate you, they may be siblings never will mention your name or hail you when you have achieve a good success rather quick to jeer at you or talk you down to discourage you; always monitor to see you make mistakes so as to promote your down fall despite they will want to enjoy your company by showing presence always because they have remote reasons for wanting to be around you.

“For I hear many whispering. Terror is on every side! \”Denounce him! Let us denounce him!\” say all my close friends, watching for my fall. \”Perhaps he will be deceived; then we can overcome him and take our revenge on him.\” (Jeremiah 20:10,) ESV

That was Jeremiah when he was in distress facing persecution to denounce God and stop preaching in His name but he was confident that His God is a mighty warrior, for He will cause his persecutors to stumble.

“But the LORD is with me as a dread warrior; therefore my persecutors will stumble; they will not overcome me. They will be greatly shamed, for they will not succeed. Their eternal dishonor will never be forgotten”. (Jeremiah 20:11) ESV


We are surrendered by the enemies both seen and unseen, it is our duty to always watch and pray against the attack of unseen enemy; the psalmist prayed in Psalm 89:22 that God will not permit his enemies to exact on him nor allow the son of the wickedness to afflict him. There are enemies everywhere always get down on your knees and allow God to fight your battles


I pray God Almighty to deliver us from the evil plots of every household enemies and frustrate the devices of their craftiness in Jesus name amen 🙏

✍️ Mrs Blessing I N Onugha ❤️


  1. Familiarity (household enemies) I love this topic because many are victims of household enemies, but sometimes I ask myself what could be the reason of friends betraying friend because is very annoying and painful when ur close friend turned out to be ur enemy, I thought I was betrayed by my close friend years back but later I realised that he betrayed himself, At first I was asking myself what could be his reason of the act , could it be that is going to be a blessing to me, could it be that he was forced to betray me , could it be that I did something bad to him, after all this questions I decided to call him to know his reason ,let me stop here . So what am trying to say is that in any relationship trust is most important, always hear from ur friend before u call him /her names or before u betray, she/he might not be what u think . I salute u ma , u are doing great.

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